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How To Deal With a Sudden Tragedy

Posted on 14/10/2014 by Advanced Bio in Blog

Suffering a sudden loss is a very horrible and strange place to be. It doesn’t feel real – and it may not – for a very long time, but real life continues around you, real concerns still pop up and real problems still continue to build even as your heart feels stuck in the moment you learned about the tragedy.

Sudden losses, unfortunately, still need to be treated like losses for which you may have been prepared. It is important to let yourself grieve and to ask that others understand what you’re going through. The grieving process is different for everyone. It is important to cry when you need to, and to spend time with loved ones and friends who can build a strong, loving community around you. However, it is equally important to take steps to provide healing and closure, steps that at first may seem the most difficult of tasks.

The very beginning

In the very beginning, tragic events such as suicides, crimes or unattended death scenes have to be dealt with immediately and in the safest manner possible. The tragedy may be sudden and shocking, especially to family members who live in the the place where the tragedy occurred, but certain regulations must be followed to ensure anyone who was around the scene is safe from dangerous diseases or chemicals. This means hiring a crime scene cleanup company who will answer to your needs right away. Hiring a crime scene cleanup team can be a very expensive endeavor, and a locally based crime scene cleanup business can provide services at a lower cost and with the caring, professional service you need at this time. Seek a company that has experience, a company that understands this situation is extremely painful, and that takes care to provide as much respect, space and qualified services you need at this time to begin to heal.

If you are a family member, you may need to begin making body bequeathal or funeral arrangements at this time. Even if you are not a family member or anyone involved with the funeral process, reach out to those you know and love for comfort and to keep them informed of what is going on. You never know who can be there to share with and help you gain strength through your period of grief.

No matter who you reach out to at this time, however, you should seek mental and emotional assistance from a professional, such as a psychiatrist, counselor, pastor, priest, therapist or specialized trauma professional if you need someone to speak to. It is easy to feel that you should be strong enough to handle the situation you are experiencing alone, but it is ok if you are not; these dedicated professionals are here to help.

Find professional help

To find a professional to help you through your grief, you can turn to your health insurance company first. It may sound like the last thing you want to do, but your health insurance company will have a list of psychiatrists, psychologists, therapists and grief counselors available in your network for you to see for free or at a minimum co-pay cost. You don’t want to get stuck paying hundreds of dollars per hour to see someone if you don’t have to. The help is worth any money and regular meetings are a part of the healing process, especially if you have taken the difficult step to seek help in the first place.

If you do not have health insurance, or if you do not wish to meet with anyone in your health insurance’s network, you may want to turn to your church, synagogue, mosque or spiritual organization. Many people do not wish to seek help from non-religious professionals, especially at this time, so seeking the aid of a priest, pastor or religious counselor may help in ways you deeply and spiritually need. Sometimes the sudden death of a loved one occurs after the loved one was having a difficult time, either alone or in his or her relationship with you. Spiritual guidance and closure at this time can help with those deep and confusing emotions in addition to your grief.

There are other ways to seek professional help, as well. Many websites offer free or inexpensive professional counseling over video chat or phone services by professional psychiatrists or counselors who believe that there are many people who need help but who cannot afford it. But be wary here. Do your research, ask your doctor or network for referrals, seek out the reputation of each website. Do not pay anyone or give your credit card number to anyone who asks for it before you research if they are real or not. There are even some websites that will help place you with a counselor who can fit your needs. Magazines such as Psychology Today are also good contacts to find out if a website is legitimate or not.

Another way to seek help is to ask around. Discuss your feelings with friends, spend time with those who love you and reach out those who share your grief. While this is important in the healing process, ask these friends and family members if they recommend a professional for you to meet. Chances are that the friend who knows you so well can recommend someone with whom you will click. Staying active with these people and communicative with a professional is the best step you can take to healing after a sudden tragedy.

And lastly, reach out to others. Reaching out to others in their pain will help you understand and deal with your own. It will show you that you are not alone and fill your heart with compassion and love for others – emotions that eventually will help to heal your heart. To learn more about death scene clean up services or to schedule an appointment, contact our helpful team today.